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I guess almost everyone has their “two kinds of people in this world” saying that they like to invoke whenever the occasion arrives, and I have to say, I’m no exception. In my opinion there are two kinds of people in this world: Those who do things, and those who complain when things aren’t done.

Now, obviously, that’s a generalization, but what I mean by that is essentially this. Think about some of the people you know. They’re all different, of course, but there are most likely some who have the attitude that they will take care of it (whatever it is) and you don’t have to worry about them. They’re responsible, reliable, and positive.

Then you probably also know some folks who are the exact opposite. They want to know when someone’s going to come along and take of that thing (whatever it is) for them. They’re not responsible or reliable, and they complain often. They make a lot of excuses for why they can’t do something, and they’re generally pretty negative.

I suppose that’s all a little vague, so here’s an example. Years ago, I was a manager at a retail establishment. We had all sorts of employees working for us. But you would quickly learn who was willing to work and who wasn’t. Let’s call them doers and complainers. The doers would run to the back and get new stacks of shopping bags if we were running low. They’d refill the paper in the registers that printed out receipts. They’d put unpurchased items back on the sales floor. They’d *gasp* help customers who needed it, and maybe even do it with a smile. And they would call the manager (me) when there was a problem that was my responsibility to handle.

The complainers would complain that they were out of shopping bags or receipt paper. They’d complain about the stacks of items that needed to be returned to the sales floor. They’d complain that every customer was a jerk before they met them. And they’d either call me too often, because they didn’t want to deal with anything themselves, or they’d never call me, and I’d find out about certain problems when it’s already too late.

The doers would usually get promotions and raises, or move on to a better job elsewhere, while the complainers would generally go nowhere.

So how can you apply this to your own personal development?

Think about your own attitude, and how you react in most situations. Do you generally try to make things better, or do you generally wait for someone else to do it? Do you find yourself complaining a lot about things that, when you really think about it, you could handle yourself?

It’s very easy, and often satisfying, to complain. And it even feels good at times. But in the long run, it makes your life much more difficult and unsatisfying. And it keeps you down.

This isn’t to say that you’ll never have reason to complain or feel bad. And there will certainly be things that happen that are out of your control and you’ll have to call the manager. But it doesn’t have to happen as often as it does for most of us.

If you want your life to change for the better, then it’s important that you start taking responsibility, and start taking the necessary steps towards your goal. You have the power in these situations.

And by the way, don’t let this confuse you into thinking that you’ll never need any help from anyone else. Doing too much is a recipe for disaster, too. But that’s a topic for another article.

Basically, I’m talking about what I always talk about. Setting realistic goals, putting together a game plan to achieve those goals, and most importantly, acting on them.

So who are you? Are you the type of person who’s going to take the proper steps to improve your life, or are you they type of person who’s going to complain that life stinks and make excuses for why you can’t do anything about it?

That’s a pretty loaded question, but I think you already know who you need to be. All you have to do now is get to it. You’ll be surprised by the amount of things that you can do.

About the Author:
Mark Yarrobino is the administrator of http://www.learntochangeyourlife.com, a website that helps its visitors find the best information available for improving whatever part of their lives they feel might need it through articles and interviews with industry experts.

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